Sometimes you just know. It’s a feeling. Sparks. Chemistry. It can be a glance, a smell, a smile, a laugh or a hair-raising touch if it is in person, on cam or on the phone. Or it can be a turn of phrase, a shared interest, an intriguing question or story, perhaps just a photo that causes the heart to flutter during an online chat. It just happens, and it defies explanation. When it works, it just works. But, the likelihood of it happening increases when your attitude is positive. Entering any interaction with a negative attitude seems to deter the likelihood of such a spark. If you’re just looking to put someone down, or win an argument, or prove you’re better than someone, it’s less likely to result in a quality chemical reaction. Anticipating something good begets the possibility of finding the spark. Being mean sets up a bad karmic construct. Be nice. Positive vibes create an atmosphere that allows sparks to fly, where one can catch glimpses of commonalities, of shared tastes for flavors that can be shared with one another, feeding off feelings for each other that can’t be explained. They just happen. But it doesn’t happen as often if you aren’t open to the possibilities. Go with the flow. Follow that spark that created the smile that warmed the heart that caused something to tingle from within. It’s better living through chemistry. When you know, you know. Go with it. As long as there is fuel for the fire, let it burn. It may burn out quickly, but let it warm your soul until it does. Who knows, there’s always the possibility it could be an eternal flame…
People come into your path for a reason, a season or a lifetime. When you know which one it is, you will know what to do with that person.
When someone is in your life for a REASON it is usually to meet a need you have expressed. They have come to assist you through a difficulty… To provide you with guidance and support… To aid you physically, emotionally or spiritually… They may seem like they are a godsend, and they are. They are there for the reason you need them to be. Then without any wrongdoing on your part, or at an inconvenient time, this person will say or do something to bring the relationship to an end. Sometimes they die… Sometimes they walk away… Sometimes they act up and force you to take a stand…. What we must realize is that our need has been met, our desire fulfilled… Their work is done. The prayer you sent up has now been answered and now it is time to move on.
Some people come into your life for a SEASON. Because your turn has come to share, grow or learn. They bring you an experience of peace or make you laugh. They may teach you something you have never done. They usually give you an unbelievable amount of joy. Believe it, it is real. But only for a season.
LIFETIME relationships teach you lifetime lessons. Things you must build upon to have a solid emotional foundation. Your job is to accept the lesson, love the person, and put what you have learned to use in all other relationships and areas of your life.
It is said that love is blind, but friendship is clairvoyant. Thank you for being a part of my life… Whether you were a reason, a season or a lifetime
Don’t let life pass you by. Seize the day! Take the long way to work and enjoy your drive. Take the scenic view way. Park the furthest from the store if possible. Take mental days off work just to catch your breathe. Don’t put off that vacation for the next few years until you or someone else has “time” Make time. If you have kids enjoy them today they don’t stay little forever and eventually they won’t need you as much and won’t be banging at that bathroom door to be let in, they won’t ask to sleep in your bed anymore. Mine are bigger now and I stall time by “stopping to smell the roses”. That’s what I call it when we take the long way to somewhere or park at the end of the parking lot of places or tent camping instead of hotel staying when we go somewhere. Me and 4 of my kids were able to take a month long vacation because I needed to take that vacation that I kept putting off for years until someone had “time” I had time and the kids that were still in my home had time so we did it. Wish I did it long before when all were still home. We can never get back time lost.
I am loved. I am happy. I am enough. I am blessed. I am worth it. I am fearless. I am beautiful. I am confident. I am deserving. I am good despite my past. I am capable of loving and forgiving. I am responsible for my own happiness. I am not perfect and I’m totally ok with it. I am going to conquer today, tomorrow and everyday.
I can keep adding to this and I will as I think of more. I claim all of these for myself. I will speak good words into my life every day especially on days I’m so far from feeling all of the above.
Make today the day you stop stressing about people who don’t care about you. That person who can spend 18 hours away from you without one phone call to see how you are doing, stop wasting your stress on them. It’s not worth the stress over if he/she loves you or not. Stop stressing over that person who shows you no sign that you are important to them. Stop letting someone’s actions towards you make you miserable. My kids are an exception to all that above, they are awesome to me but they are my kids and worth any stress I will or have ever gone thru. My aha moment was this summer. I decided to mentally let go of anything that made me worry, stress, sad anything that wasn’t worth my time and energy and most importantly my health because at the end of the day my life changes are for me to live longer to be able to see all the grandchildren I hope to have. Stressing isn’t good for your health so mentally throw away anything or anyone not worth stressing over.
When I go to the gym I find that I am mentally so much better. I have so much energy, I feel happy, it really changes my mood. When I started going to the gym I had a surgical hernia from a gall bladder surgery from about 5 years prior so I had to do really light exercise pretty much just the treadmill but it helped. Once I had surgery I started to do more things at the gym. Starting on the elliptical was so far out of my ability, I only stayed on maybe a minute then maybe two. It got easier everytime I tried. I can stay on as long as an hour then at planet fitness it stops me. This will be a short blog post but exercise helps feel mentally healthy. I created a helpful spreadsheet with the Planet Fitness machines in case anyone wants to keep track of their exercises I already did the spreadsheet you can just ad the other things you do. I’ll add more tracking tools later. FOLLOW THE LINK FOR EDITABLE SPREADSHEET https://docs.google.com/spreadsheets/d/1fxjyzPM9k45wpNpMmwtUxiOVC6TOrsMs4Sljk4mpA9Y/edit?usp=sharing
This is a repost of one of my private blog posts from April 11, 2012, I thought with today’s topic it would be a good post to share. During this time I was going thru alot of things and I would blog privately only for me on wordpress. I made it public on that site too but I just copied it here too.
All my life I was scared to take chances but took them, especially in love, chances which have caused heartache but have given my life much meaning. Those chances made me the person I am today. I am not one to regret anything in my life, but live for the moment. I was blessed with 5 beautiful children with some of those chances I took, I wouldn’t change anything in my life. I know I myself have caused heartache but to change that, I would have to change my heartaches so I hope I was truly forgiven for those I have caused. I never have truly trusted anyone in my life. I have always held back a little just in case, but I think I cheated myself out of ever truly being in love with someone. I’ve been married for almost 11 years and still go by my maiden name. I think I set myself up for failure. I never gave all so how could I have expected all. I never got to know the man who gave me life which may have something to do with it or not. I don’t know. I pray that God has blessed him with love , long life and happiness. I don’t know how much time left I have on this earth but I will live the rest of my days for my children. The great woman who brought me into this world left it almost 19 years ago, that was the worst heartache I’ve experienced all my life, and pray not to ever have to experience any other feeling like it. So reflecting back on all the years of my life I thank God for every person that has touched my life in one way or another. The song The Dance~ Garth Brooks has always been my favorite song since the first time I heard it, which twenty one years ago when I experienced my first heartbreak. I decided long ago to make sure to live my life without any regrets and take chances even if I still didn’t give all I gave all I could and I would do every single thing again. Taking chances maybe hard to do especially after you’ve been hurt once before but take them and give all don’t cheat yourself out of anything, you only live once and you can not take things back even if you do regret them. Love with all you got, live life like there’s no tomorrow, and treasure every single happy moment of your life.